Number 3

Yes number 3. If you have guessed it correctly it means I am once again pregnant with child number 3. I am as of today 9 weeks and 3 days along. My due date is August 4th 2009. This baby and Alex will be about 30 months apart. No it was not planned. I actually was on the pill. SO SUPRISE!!! I am happy about it. It took me a day or two to get use to the idea. Haydan was not happy about it at first and I am still not sure how he feels about it. He has been so stuck on not having anymore children period.

We found out we were expecting on December 26th. Haydan flew back to California on December 29th to work before he delpoys. He deploys on January 9th and so far doesn't plan on being back till sometime in September. So he will miss the pregnancy and the birth. I am just glad that I am surrounded by family and friends. I have my support and hope that this pregnancy because of the support I have around won't be as hard as I am thinking it will be because my husband will miss the growth of the abay and finally the miracle of life being given to our child. Not sure if I want to find out what gender the baby is or if I am going to leave till the baby is born. We are prepared for either gender so it really doesn't matter if I find out or not. So wish me luck. When I get sonogram pictures I will get them up.

This last month.

So Olivia missed her appointments with the pediatric psychologist and after missing two appointments she wan't allowed to have another. I guess the receptionist said if we miss two we can't amke another appointment because there is a long waiting list to see her. SO anyway I founf another psychologist that was willing to see Olivia. He said he doesn't hink she has ADHD or even ADD. But he definitely see's a problem. He said it seems she has ODD (oppisitional defiant disorder) which is usually linked to ADD/ADHD but doesn't have to be connected. So me and Haydan and Olivia's teachers at school filled out some surveys on Olivia's behhavior and such so the psych should get an idea of what each person notices about her behavior. The surveys form haydan and I totally contridict the surveys from Olivia's teachers. I Don't get how she is an angel at school but has prooven that she can be a monster at home. So we are trying to get to the bottom of this all and hopefully see a light at the end of a tunnel and get a handle on Olivia's outrageous behavior. Don't get me wrong, is a very Sweet and carring litle girl, but she definitely has her moments and they ccome more often than they should. ANd we just don't know what to do or how to redirect her bad behavior to good behavior. We need help understanding why she acts the way she does, why she acts this way, what triggers it, and how to help her however we need to be helping her. I am determined to get the help all of us need.

We are still moving to Washington next month. WE do not have a place of our own yet be we are trying. Our plan at this moment is to move in with Haydan's parents till we do find a place since it will be easier to find a place when we are physically there instead of 1400 miles away. And his parent's home is bigger than mine so we will have a room for the kids to share and a room of our own. We will also be able to put all of our stuff in their garage so we don't have to rent a strage space. The military isn't going to move us like we were told because we are not within 180 days of Haydan's EAS. So we are going to have to spend the $$$ to rent a truck and get boxes. Lot's of fun ahead of us. Our date of move is Dec. 19th. There is a unit Christmas party that Haydan's presence is manditory so we will get packed up and be ready to leave after the party. We hope to arrive at the in-laws on Dec. 23rd if all goes will with the snow in the moutains. Not ooking forward to that. ICK!!!

Last night was the Marine Corps Birthday Ball. We went and had a blast. Met up with tons of friends and met new ones. The Marine Corps was established on Nov. 10th, 233 years ago. I finally got to wear one of the formal dresses, still bearring a tag, never been worn, hanging in my closet. And the choice of shoes was bad. Just wearing them sittin gin the car hurt. I am not use to walking like Barbie. They were silver strappy things with 4 inch heels. Anyway we got pictures so take a look. Haydan looked . . . well I'll just say he looked extremely handsome in his dress blues. What I want to say probably isn't appropriate. Till next time...

UPdate on the kids and the family

Alex's toe is healing wonderfully. All has grown back all that's left is a scabb. I mean it's a pretty big and nasty scabb, but his toe in general is doing so much better. As for Olivia, we finally found a doctor that listens. He watched how Olivia was reacting to things and how she was in general. He dicussed her behavior with me and disipline. The next step is seeing the behavior specialist. That will be in the 22nd of Oct. She will do a series of test for development and other things. The doctor suggested a couple weeks of counseling and then she will start taking medication. I have an appointment with the Doctor on the 17th to discuss medication. Like wich one is best for her specific issues and age. I have been researching the different medications used to treat ADHD to get a better idea of what I think is best for Olivia. I am so glad that after a year and a half I have finally found someone who listens and observes instead of just writting everything off as it all being part of her age. Because yes, some of it is part of bing 4 1/2 but when she takes everything to a major extreme and hurts others it's not just her age.

As for the family... we were aprroved for a loan and were able to buy a new car and get rid of our two junkers. We got a 2007 Saurn Ion 2. Yes it is a sedan but we needed to down size for gas price reasons. We got the car for just under $10,000. Our Payments are $208 a month and with only 12.7% interest. WE got a loan through Navy Federal credit Union. The people we at first were going to get a loan through had our payments at $247 a month with 18% interest. So THANK THE ALL MIGHTY LORD for answered prayers. We have been struggling with cars since 2004. Never could get one reliable. And finally we do. I don't know what I have been doing or maybe not doing to be blessed this way but I am eternally greatful. On another good note, we found a 3 bdrm apatment in our home town of Puyallup, Washington for under $1000 a month with all deposites 100% refundable. It's a nice well kept and clean complext about a 20 minute drive north of both my parents and my in-laws. So the last thing we need to find is a mover to get our belingings for cheap. Since this is a personal move and not a PSC or end of contract move, we have to pay for the move out of our pocket. And we know that it is not that cheap but we can dall we can to find the best price. So as we find movers we have lots of furniture to sell/get rid of. Just in case you are curious as to what we are not keeping let me know and i will have pictures for you.

Today's ER Adventure

It all started today when Haydan and I took Olivia to school. After we dropped her off at 12:30 PM, we drove to San Diego to the bishop's store house to pick up our grocieries. Haydan, Alex and I got back home around 2:30 PM and proceeded to bring the food in the house from the car. I after all the food was in the kitchen, I sat on the couch to eat a sandwhich while Haydan put the groceries away.
Alex was in the kitchen with Haydan watching the process of putting the groceries away. While Haydan was putting meat into the freezer a 5lb pot roast slipped out of the freezer from the top shelf and hit Alex on his right big toe and immediately started crying. I slowly got up off the couch thinking he was okay and jut got a little smashed toe and could be consoled. But as I was half way to the kichen Haydan picked up Alex and called for me. As I looked up I saw blood pouring from Alex's foot and got a closer look and saw that a chunk of his toe was hanging there and yealled to Haydan, "LET"S GO!!" (meaning go to the ER). I Grabbed a clean towel that happened to be on the floor behind Haydan and covered up Alex's toe, took him from Haydan, and ran to get my shoes on and out to the car. In a panic I "ordered" Haydan to grab Alex's cup that was lying on the living room floor and the diaper bag. Haydan didn't have shoes on so he grabbed what I told him to grab, and his shoes, and drove shoeless to the hospital. Knowing first aid, I knew to put pressure on both sides of Alex's toe and elevate it to sloe and eventually stop the bleeding. Haydan drove fast so we got to the hospital in record time. Alex stopped crying when we were about two miles from the hopital.
But everytime someone, namely a nurse or Dr., took a look at his toe and touched it he screamed.
Alex was admitted as soon as we got to the ER. Got his vitals taken and a hospital gown on and off to radiology for X-rays to make sure his bone wasn't broken or fractured. Luckily it wasn't. Then there was talk about Alex either getting the tip of his toe sewn back on or just taking it off and letting it grow back on it's own. The Dr. concluded that she would try to sew his toe tip back on. So she proceded to give numbing shots to Alex's toe. Then she irrigated the wound. Next she examines his toe more closely. After further examination, the Dr.s final conclusion was to cut the tip of his toe the rest of the way off because it was only being held on by a small piece of skin on the back side and the tip was cut too far under his nail to put stitches and the chunk of toe was pretty much dead already. So the Dr. cleaned his toe off some more and bandaged it up really really good. Alex was perscribed and antibiotic to prevent any infection of his toe sence his toe was cut in an unsterile environment and with and unsterile item. He was also perscribed a tylenol/codine mix for his pain. The Dr, didn't think that tylenol alone would be enough pain relief.
Oh while I was in the ER with Alex Haydan ran off to pick Olivia up from school because we couldn't get a hold of our emergency contact. So I was in the ER holding Alex the hole time. Haydan and Olivia came back to get Alex and me back home.
We all got home about 6:00 PM. We gave Alex a dose of both his RX's and tried to get him to eat. All he wanted to do was be held and go to sleep. He's okay now that he is on pain medication and at home resting.
We have to go back to the hospital everyday for the next two weeks to get the bandages changed and have his toe examined to prevent infection. The Dr. said the tip of his toe should grow back and look completely normal after a few months. There will be some scarring but because he is so young, by the time he's a teenager it'll be virtually invisible.
So just imangine your toe instead of being round at the tip, being leveled from just under the nail straight through to the other side. That's what happened to Alex. His bone wasn't broken, fractured or exposed in anyway. I thank the Lord for that because if it had, there obviouly would have been more damage to Alex's toe therefore more pain and more to fix and possibly a much much worse outcome of all this.
I couldn't have been as calm as I was if I didn't have my wonderful husband by my side through this ordeal. I love my family so much and I hate to see any of them in any kind of pain. And I am glad Alex still has his toe. And yes, mom, I plan on calling my home teachers tomorrow to come give Alex a blessing.

Olivia

So Olivia started full time pre-school last Monday the 25th. She was really excited to go. She gets to eat lunch at school in the cafeteria and we qualify for free lunches. So that's all fine and dandy. She has made friends with two boys, Dominic and Jalen, and a girl, Aliveea (pronounced Aw-live-ee-ah) almost like Olivis'a name. So far her teacher says she has done well with sharing and listening and things like that. Needless to say her first week of school was good.
I have had to ask the teacher for a weekly report on Olivia's behavior. Olivia has a Dr's appointment this Wednesday so I can talk to her teacher about getting Olivia into a behavioral specialist again and be evaluated for ADHD as well as getting her asthma checked again. We have to get her astma checked just about every three months. Anyway we have been having problems at home and out on the playground with Olivia. She can't seem to share anymoe and she tries to be queen bee. Not only is she verbally bossy but she is hitting, kicking, pushing, yelling, screaming, and lying. She is like this with everybosy. There is no exception to anyone. I have had a little girl's parents, of whom Olivia plays with on the playgorund, come over to our house twice to talk to us about Olivia bullying not only their little girl but the other children as well. I mean I was told Olivia had been kicking this little girl in the chest and leaving bruises because this little girl wouldn't share her M&M's. It's frustrating because I don't know what to do, and it's embarassing to find out that my little girl is the playgorund bully. I don't think I should have to sit out there for hours on end watching her play when the playground is like 20FT form the back door. She does all this stuff to Alex too.
At home she screams at the top of her lungs at anyone nad everyone over EVERYTHING.Even something as little as going potty because I saw her holding herself. She doesn't listen to anything she is told and sometimes does the total oppisite of what she was told just to make me and her dad angry. Then gets mad because she is introuble...? How does that make any sence?
If we tell her to do something she will not only scream but throw herself into everything and cry over her being told to do something. It's kinda hard to explain unless you have seen it and experienced it yourself. I have tried taking toys away, t.v., the computer, grounding her from going outside, taking awau treats, timeouts. . . I don't know what else to do. ADHD runs strong in my family. From what I have read about and experienced myself with my brother and older sister and myself, I believe I am seeing signs in my daugheter. I am hoping this time the specialist will actually listen to what I have to say and actually observe what is going on and help me get something done about Olivia's behavior. I think by getting her onto some medication it will help her succeed in the future. I am at my wits end with this bullying, lying, constant crying and bad behavior. I love my daughter way to much to let this go un-noticed and not taken care of before it becomes a bigger problem than it already is.

Getting this thing going

I thought that this blogg space would be more convenient than myspace for my family and friends both near and far. So now everyone can stay "in the know" with me and Haydan and the kids. Bear with me as I still am trying to figure this sit out and finding things to post. Love you all.